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A Guide to Love, God, Prayer, Meditation, & Peace Within You—Right Now

How Can I Heal My Relationship with My Mother?


Carol: “My 75-year-old mother is very negative and critical. She is never satisfied with my life or my achievements and seems to need to make me wrong about everything. I feel I am caught in a trap of always wanting to prove that I am worthy of her respect. I remember that I was often terrified of her as a child and she could be very cruel. Yet I know that she too had a very tough childhood; she lost her own mother when she was little and had to help care for her siblings from a young age. I am Christian and have been told I need to forgive her, but how do I do that? How can I be healed from all of this?”

The Voice for Love: “My Dearest Child, thank you for opening your heart and mind to receiving a higher perspective on your relationship with your mother. This is a very brave opening for you.

“Please ask yourself, Beloved, whether you believe that this relationship can be healed, completely. Also ask yourself whether you are completely willing for it to be healed. Please know that the answer to both of these questions must be ‘yes,’ and if it is ‘yes,’ so be it. You have willed it and desired it, and so it is. Accept healing for yourself and on behalf of your mother.

“Begin immediately to practice viewing your mother as the beautiful soul that she is. You can imagine her shining with a lovely, soft light. Do not pay attention to her words. These are the words of a woman asking for love in the only way she can at the moment. Do not take offense when she criticizes you. Instead, reply softly – do not become angry.

“Practice also, when you are alone and quiet, going to a lovely space within that is glowing with beautiful light. Simply be in this space and breathe it in. Here you are totally acknowledged by God as the radiant, holy child that you are. Here you are only loved unconditionally, cherished, tenderly guided and watched over. You may create this space in your imagination in whatever way seems most lovely to you. You may spend as much time in this beautiful inner space as you wish.

“In this space you can commune not only with your own higher Light, but you can also be with the higher Light of your mother. Here you can practice forgiving her, loving her, encouraging her. Here you can gently breathe through your feelings, allowing them to arise and fall away. In this quiet space you can practice the feelings and behaviors that you want to bring into your relationship with your mother.

“You will practice acknowledging yourself, loving yourself, encouraging and praising yourself as well. You will become your own truest friend. This practice is going to build your confidence. Without saying a word to your mother, you will begin to feel stronger. You will no longer seek to change her behavior. Rather, you will watch as your behavior and your emotions become more loving towards her. You will be patient, you will not find yourself compelled to reply to her. You will allow her to be herself, and you will become more and more yourself.

“It matters not, Beloved, what has happened in the past. All that matters is that you have chosen to heal and to awaken. That is all that matters. Bless your mother, and all those close to you, for the wonderful lessons they are acting out for you. It is all for healing, Beloved. All for healing.”